I’ve never said I’m not problematic. Not once. I won’t ever say that.
I’ve certainly never called myself a ‘good cis’. I’ve never even called myself an ally. I have said that I am trying my best to be an ally, but ally isn’t ultimately a term you can give yourself, least of all call yourself a good one! It would be for the trans community to decide if I count as an ally or not.
I know that as a cis person that’s grown up in a cisnormative society, like many other bloggers about, I’m going to have absorbed all sorts of problematic attitudes, many of which I’ve probably never thought twice about.
I’m trying my best to unlearn all that stuff with the help of the amazing trans bloggers I follow (Of which I am currently making a list of so more cis folk like myself can take the initiative and get ourselves educated because it is absolutely our job to do that. I know I made that post on the subject last week but I’ve been very busy, it’s in my drafts at the moment. I promise I shall have it done soon.) and I understand that this is a process that will probably last for the rest of my life.
I wouldn’t separate myself from other cis people. I’ve never done that.
I do call out cis people that I know when they say things that are transphobic or transmisogynistic, but I wouldn’t distance myself from them. That’s unhelpful to say the least. All I can do is keep educating myself and try to help out by calling out people that say problematic stuff surrounding trans issues.
I’m painfully ignorant on trans issues, quite honestly. I’m still only on a surface level. But I know that’s my job to sort out, and I hope I am making some improvement in that respect.